Getting over your first love can be really difficult. For some women, the memory sticks around for the years to come and can haunt their future relationships. It stops you from really moving on if you constantly hold a candle to that old flame. Here are six great tips to get over your first love, so it doesn’t haunt you again.
Give Yourself Time
It is going to take time. This is a pain that you have never felt before, so allow yourself the chance to get over it. There is nothing wrong with crying about it, and it can take a few weeks and even months.
During this time, remember that it is not the end of the world. It is like losing someone you love, so grieve and move on.
Vent to Your Friends
You will be angry and upset, and it is okay to feel that way. It’s really important to vent and your friends are just right for that.
A good friend will sit and listen as you shout and cry about the ending of the relationship. You can vent about what you should have done, what he should have done and why you wish you were still together. But don’t forget venting about his mistakes and how useless he is now that he doesn’t have you.
List Why You’re Better Off Without Him
It’s time to create a list of reasons why you’re better off single and without him. Remember the movies that he convinced you to watch or the sport he tried to get you into?
Think about the friends he had and the time you had to spend away from your own friends. There are so many benefits to being single!
Get Rid of the Evidence
Throw away the photos and give him his stuff back. You want all evidence that there was a relationship out of your life.
There will be some stuff that you simply don’t want to throw away because of other memories. Put these out of sight, where you’re not tempted to pull them out to reminisce. You will soon find that you forget about them. When you do find them again, you’ll remember the stuff that you really wanted to and forget about the pain you felt after your breakup from him.
Don’t Talk to Him
It can seem a little drastic, but the best thing you can do is to cease all communication from him. At least for now.
Talking to him, even as a friend, is just going to bring up the bad memories and make it take longer to get over him. Only talk to him again when you really are over him. If in doubt, you’re not ready!
Everyone Goes Through It
You’re not the first and you will not be the last. This gives you plenty of people to lean on for support, and sets you up for the future.
Talk to your mom, best friend and older sister about your feelings and find out how they got over their first love.