It’s coming up to your wedding day, and you have this nagging feeling that this is the biggest mistake of your life. You know it could just be cold feet, but what if it’s not? What if this isn’t something that you should be doing right now? It’s normal to go through the reasons to get married, but here are six reasons not to get married right now.
You Don’t Love Your Partner
This is going to be the person you spend the rest of your life with. If you don’t love him anymore or if you never did, it’s going to be difficult to spend the rest of your lives together.
Yes, people fall in and out of love, but do you really want to just put up with that man in your life for the rest of your days? Both of you will start to resent each other.
You Both Want Very Different Things
He’s wants the white picket fence and children, while you want to travel the world and never have any little ones in the home. These are two very different things in life, and you could both end up resenting each other for giving up your own dreams.
If you’re already struggling to compromise, don’t think that it will get easier. The decisions get harder, and there are some things you just can’t compromise on.
He Doesn’t Respect You
If he has no respect for you right now, what makes you think that that will change later?
Think about the type of relationship you are in, and just how toxic it is. What would you say if it was a friend turning to you for advice before her wedding night, and in a similar type of relationship to you? Some people do not change, and you cannot expect him to. It’s best to find someone else who will love and respect you for who you are.
You’re Doing It Because It’s the “Right Time”
There is no “right time” to get married. Some people get married when they’re young, but there are plenty of senior citizens finding love in their older ages.
Some widowers and widows find love with each other, believing that they will never move on after their spouses have died. Get the idea of it’s the “right time” out of your head, and do it because this is what you want to do.
You’re Only Doing It for the Financial Benefits
There are a lot of financial benefits to getting married.
Married couples have more tax breaks than common-law couples do. However, that is not the only reason to tie the knot. You need to do it because you love each other, and you respect the vows that you will take.
You’re Hiding Things From Each Other
If you’re already keeping secrets from each other, what will you be like in the years to come?
Secrets can destroy a relationship, and really break the trust. It’s important to have an honest and respectful relationship and marriage.